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10th Annual New Jersey AIDS WALK [VIRTUAL] MAY 3RD 2020

One Day – One Cause – Five VIRTUAL SITES:  RIDGEWOOD  serves people living in Bergen/Passaic Counties

Dear Friend,

We send an abundance of encouragement and solidarity to do all that is necessary to be safe, sound and productive. These times are uncertain and are causing destructive anxieties.  It is our wish that you will all cease the opportunity to create quality time with your loved ones. Keeping appropriate distance does not mean emotional and social isolation. LOVE is also contagious SPREAD COMPASSION when you can!

As a member of our New Jersey AIDS WALK family, we want to stay in contact with you. You are, and have always been, the reason we provide for the communities here in New Jersey. Your wellness is vital in our continued efforts to serve the most vulnerable. We are cooperating fully with our state, county, and professional health officials to halt the spread of COVID-19 without ending any of the most essential services which include food, medication, medical services, housing, as well as other supportive services by phone and internet.

NJAW is a collaborative of high quality organizations seeking ways to provide some of the care that grants no longer cover. We were all here in the 80’s and were the model of how to be compassionate even with uncertainty in our midst. We learned, and taught, universal precautions and ways to care for all… not just the people we like. That’s what community is and that’s what Americans are!

The New Jersey AIDS WALK falls toward the end of most time frames of restriction for public gatherings, it is responsible that we have converted this to a virtual event that will occur on Sunday, May 3rd. We are working on the details of this virtual form and will provide them to you as soon as they develop.

The New Jersey AIDS WALK 2020 will continue to be a means of gathering support for those living with HIV/AIDS and a way toward eliminating stigma and phobias that will help End the HIV Epidemic in NJ and keep us prepared to tackle other ills such as this new COVID-19 pandemic.

We will be keeping you informed of any provisions to keep our continuity.  All decisions will be informed by what is most essential for community wellness. Our member agencies: Buddies of NJ (Bergen County); NJCRI (Newark), NJAS (Morris County), the Center (Asbury Park) and SJAA (Atlantic City) want to let you know that we here for the entire community at this time. Let us know how we may honor your faithful support in the community and/or for your individual needs.

Meanwhile, continue to develop your teams that will help us in this most crucial time.  And we will work toward a day when when we will actually enjoy each other’s physical presence once again.

Learn more about the New AIDS Walk at
For More Information, Contact Ray Welsh at
CALL ANYTIME IF YOU NEED HELP at: 201-489-2900, or 201-290-1539.


Event Details

Please join Buddies of NJ, on May 3RD to raise awareness and funds for those living with and/or affected by HIV/AIDS.

Due to COVID-19 THIS IS A VIRTUAL EVENT  –  More Details to Come


Kickoff Extravaganza – POSTPONED indefinitely

2020 Kickoff Extravaganza  

Fundraiser for the New Jersey AIDS WALK


At the Loft @ the Riverside Manor | 27 E 33rd Street | Paterson, NJ
(Intersect Rte 20N @ Morlot Ave Fair Lawn)

Food – Musicians – Artists – Singers – Drag Performances – Raffles – Cash Bar

Featuring: Jason Brown | Together with your favourites from years past and more…



Tom Hayes Holiday Brunch

Buddies of NJ invites you to our annual Tom Hayes Holiday Brunch

About this Event

Joe’s Back for one last time at New Location

Chef “Uncle Joe” from Bay Way Diner and Featured on Guy Fierri is back one last time!


CLICK NOW TO BUY TICKETS / haga clic ahora para comprar boletos

Single Tickets are $15.00 / Family of Four Tickets are $50.00 / Table $130.00

Silent Auction | TV Raffle | Mystery Tricky Tray |and More!

Make this a family and friend celebration … with our family at Buddies. It is a time for everyone to be together before the holidays!

Joe ha vuelto por última vez a una nueva ubicación

¡El chef “Tío Joe” de Bay Way Diner y presentado en Guy Fierri regresó por última vez!


Los boletos individuales cuestan $ 15.00 / Familia de cuatro boletos cuestan $ 50.00 / Mesa $ 130.00

Subasta silenciosa | Sorteo de TV | Mystery Tricky Tray | ¡y más!

Haga de esto una celebración familiar y de amigos … con nuestra familia en Buddies. ¡Es un momento para que todos estén juntos antes de las vacaciones!

World AIDS DAY | Dec. 1st


Annual Ceremony to Remember those We Lost and Celebrate those we still have…

About this Event

Join Buddies of NJ, Inc. remembering those who have gone ahead of us and those who still fighting HIV/AIDS. The martyrs, the unfortunate, the champions and more… we will remember and hopefully honor each one as we fight to defeat stigma and champion love until HIV is gone.

Light dinner and social following.

Dinner Provided by:


Únase a Buddies of NJ, Inc. para recordar a quienes nos han adelantado y a quienes aún luchan contra el VIH / SIDA. Los mártires, los desafortunados, los campeones y más … recordaremos y, con suerte, honraremos nuestra lucha para derrotar el estigma y defender el amor hasta que el VIH desaparezca. Cena ligera y social. Cena proporcionada por:

NJ Latinx HIV/AIDS Awareness

A celebration of the Latinx people coming together to defeat HIV in their communities.

About this Event

Celebración de las personas latinx que se unen para vencer el VIH en sus comunidades. Celebration of the Latinx people coming together to defeat HIV in their communities.

Presentación de la cena de Feautured por Gilead Science en Estigma. Feautured dinner presentation by Gilead Sciences on Stigma.

6PM to 7PM Flu Vacinations

HIV Counseling & Testing


Después de la presentación, compartir pareja, cena, música, baile y PrEP hablar y mas… Following the presentation, partner sharing, dinner, music, dancing, PrEP talk, and more…

Date And Time

Wed, October 16, 2019

6:00 PM – 10:00 PM EDT

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Riverside Manor

27 East 33rd Street

Paterson, NJ 07514

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Buddies of NJ Resource & Community Wellness Fair


Buddies of NJ, proudly invites community partners along with service, health and wellness providers to join our 2nd Annual Buddies of NJ Resource & Community Wellness Fair

Over 30 providers come out to give healthier options to our clients and the entire community.

Area Hospitals, dentists, massage, chiropractic, mental health, substance abuse, STD & HIV Screenings, blood pressure and hear screenings, eye screenings and more.

Please Click and Fill Out Our Exibitor / Tabling Application


Buddies of NJ, Inc.

Providing Support and Services to People Living With and Affected by HIV/AIDS!

Come see the facility and people that supports a healthier community! Community partners and friends will set up tables to let people show services available at and/or by our agencies.

Food will be catered so please REGISTER ON THIS EVENTBRITE PAGE FOR A TICKET and let us know that you will be attending.

If you would like to display your services or have a table, please contact: or OR call 201-489-2900 .

If you would like to be a SPONSOR of this event please contact the Events Manager:   .

Jersey Pride & Gay Men’s Health Retreat

Jersey Pride Sunday June 2 in Asbury Park –  Join Us at Our Table  | Let Us Know if You Want to March


NJ’s 5th Gay Men’s Health Retreat


This 3-Day Retreat is offered at a fraction of the cost of similar retreats throughout the country. We officially include people living with HIV, people who are affected by HIV, and our allies. This affordable retreat is due to the generosity of the Bath Avenue House donating nearly half of the lodging cost in memory of our friend, and Buddies’ former Director, Stephen Scheuermann. We are also lucky to have the support of volunteers, speakers, restaurants, and groups who provide meals with presentations.

HIV has been one of the biggest fears that many of us, gay or bi men, are faced with. HIV, a virus that has changed lives forever in ways never expected. We, as a community, have fought to inform policy that is beating this virus and that is seeking to establish a permanent voice of equality in how we are treated. U=U is now official; UNDETECTABLE = UNTRANSMITTABLE ! HIV, although still with us, is becoming less relevant:So NOW WHAT???

Of course, our major goal is lowering the viral load to undetectable and stopping the spread of HIV. HIV is only one of the health challenges we face. HIV is now very treatable, more easily preventable, and no longer a death sentence, yet we still have unique challenges that other illnesses do not. HIV has given us an opportunity to renew who we are and how we take care of ourselves… even when we slip backward. We are not much different than other people who decide to turn their struggles into championships. HIV, however, is a unique challenge and it helps to find support from others who experience similar twists in: health, lifestyles, family, relationships, employment, legalities, spirituality, and more…


Activities and Presentations Will Touch On: Health & Wellness Beyond HIV; Giving Ourselves Space to Heal; Physical Activity & Cardio Vascular Health; Mental Wellness; Healthier Cooking; Listening & Understanding; Healthy Communication; Self-Advocacy; Disclosure vs. Non-Disclosure; Sexual Intimacy; Healthy Relationships; Prevention & PrEP; Spirituality and More…

Participants will be able to see the Jersey shore (≈300 steps away) and breathe it in, just as the warm weather begins to envelop its coast. Gay and Bi men will have a chance to relax and enjoy themselves and others who are different, yet, share similar life circumstances. It is a time to gain awareness of where we are in life and to where life may be calling us. It is a time to discover and acknowledge our strengths, weaknesses, talents, frailties, desires, needs, and more… Together we create a safe, stigma-free environment where we have us a chance to articulate who and what may support us in our journeys towards a healthier life. This is not an intense weekend of problem solving; it is going to be relaxing and fun!

YOU MAY ATTEND: Any adult man (cis or trans) who self identifies as gay, bi-sexual, or MSM may apply to attend regardless of age, race, nationality, socio-economic status, looks, religious beliefs, or political stature.

Safe space is a priority! It is our goal to keep this a safe place free of judgement or fear. We will ask that selected applicants will only be those who can present a proof of status and/or demonstrate how HIV strongly affects their lives. Anyone who pays prior to filing application is entitled to full refund if not selected. If you are coming for any other reasons than: self-enhancement, relaxation, fun, and/or brief time away from responsibilities… you may choose not to apply or to call and find out if you may experience what you hope to out of this retreat. Space is limited; apply soon!

The cost for 3-Nights & 3 Days in advance is only $210.00 per person (MEALS INCLUDED). This must be paid in advance to NJB by check or online at Eventbrite by May 6th. Upgrade to single bed room is $50. The cost is $225. after May 6th unless payment plan is arranged by emailing .


To Bring or Not To Bring …

Bring weather appropriate, comfortable clothing. Bringa nice-a pair a clothes for going one night on the town… but DO NOT OVER PACK unless you are THE QUEEN! Clean bedding, pillows, and towels are provided. Generic soap and shampoo are also provided; please bring your own tooth brush, hair brush, and/or any specialty care items for hygiene with you. Bring medications but please list any that you are bringing; narcotic prescriptions must be approved prior to acceptance of application. Alcohol and non-prescription drugs also may not be brought on premise. Smoking may only happen off premise… it will be assumed that anyone found smoking in the house is on fire and appropriate measure will be taken to put you out. There will be plenty of free time and open space for persons who need to smoke. Watches and cell phones may not be audible or visible during presentations and/or discussions; there will be safe areas available to place them during those times. Please leave negative attitudes at home. Bring on the fun and stay positive!

Talents and Skills

If you have any talents or skills that you believe can benefit persons attending this retreat, please let us know; write: subject: retreat talents and skills

The Schedule


on the Friday before the retreat

As usual, we piggy-back on the Annual Jersey Pride Celebration

Those Who Arrive Early for PRIDE May Check In & Leave Baggage in Secure Area

FULL SCHEDULE WILL BE POSTED… This retreat is for self-relaxation and growth. No one is required to attend all meeting or activities… Please, however, try to attend as many that you feel you are able to. Additionally, any sponsored meals will only be for participatnts. If you choose not to particapate for a sponsored meal, you must then provide for your own meal at that time. The schedule will provide for plenty of free time and personal space. All we ask is that you do not schedule or partake in alternative activities during times that things are scheduled. Gathering and Pizza & Salad will be at SUNDAY @ 6:00PM

The Retreat will begin evening promptly at 7:00PM.

The men will enjoy pizza and salad prior to welcoming and “house-keeping”. The guys will enjoy a couple activities followed by an inspiring talk. Then just before retiring to a comfortable room we will have warm beverages and cookies out on the porch.

Monday morning a full country breakfast will be served. Lunch at ——- provided by —–. Dinner at —- by —-.

Tuesday morning a full country breakfast will be served. Presentations, discussions, and activities will happen throughout the day. One activity will be fun as it involves spending time on the streets and landscape of beautiful Ocean Grove and Asbury Park. Lunch by …

Wednesday morning a full country breakfast will be served again. There will be a very brief weekend recap and evaluation following a morning sexuality workshop. This will be done efficiently for anyone who needs to leave before 10:30am may do so.12pm Lunch by Gilead You may choose to check your bags and/or make arrangement to stay longer if weather and vacancy permits.

Meals by: , , , & consumer educational programs.


Each participant may:

  1. Drive down in his own vehicle; there is plenty of safe street parking.
  2. Carpool with friend(s). (Please offer an appropriate gratuity for gas and tolls when someone is kind enough to drive.)
  3. Apply early for transportation via NJB – LIMITED SPACE
  4. Use NJ Transit


*minimum down payment is $50.



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New Jersey PRIDE RUN 5K

Buddies of NJ, Inc. is proud to be 1 of 3 hosts of the 1st NJ PRIDE RUN

Sunday, May 5th, 9:30am the 5K Run begins

We have added this component as the pre-event to the NJ AIDS WALK

to include more people as part of this important fundraiser…


Unlike the WALK REGISTRATION… their is a small $25. REGISTRATION FEE…

which includes timing, separate course time, tank t shirt, numbered chit, and run bag.


REGISTER HERE for both… once you put in your name and address you will be prompted to choose RUN &/or WALK.