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Save These Dates

Sept. 16th   Buddies Recourse & COMMUNITY Wellness Fair

Oct. 5th  Invited to View RENT the musical at the Bergen County Players in Oradell

Dec. 1st  World AIDS DAY

Dec. 10  Tom Hayes Holiday Brunch at the BROWNSTONE


Please email with any further inquiry.

National HIV Testing Day

Testing and knowing your status should be done always.  But the 27th of June is set aside so that we enter communities that you are part of to not only bring HIV Testing in 20 minutes… but to bring postitive attitudes, education and fun.  Come out get tested and get gift cards and swag…

10a – 12p

Walgreens E. 18th Street Paterson,  NJ

1p to 4p

Walmart in North Bergen, NJ

throughout the day

CAPCO’s new office on Main Street in Paterson 

& of course we can always be available at our home location:

149 Hudson Street at the Franklin A. Smith Resource Center

Give a call and reserve time for your next test: 201-489-2900


NJAW: Ending Epidemics Together Sun May 7th

Join Us…    SUNDAY MAY 7TH



the details and receipt

Buddies of New Jersey 

Saddle River County Park Otto C. Pehle Area
Saddle River Road • Saddle Brook • NJ 07663
SUNDAY MAY 7, 2023 at 1PM   |   Check-In at 11AM

NJAW: Kickoff Dance APRIL 21st

Vitale’s Bar & Restaurant will be transformed into a magical place where we all can feel free to dance like we are in are 20’s.

If you’re in your 20’s your can teach some of us to dance to the newer music as we will definitely identify the classics.

Late Nite HAPPY HOUR buffet included with entry admission.

We want everyone to come, have fun, and help one another’s create and join teams on

BE PREPARED TO TAKE A CHANCE.. I believe everyone will go home a winner.




Transgender Day of Visibility – TODAY

In Need of Health or Supportive Services?
Call our Franklin A. Smith Resource Center and ask for the prevention department who will be glad to work with you! | 201-489-2900
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Ocean Grove Health Retreat Jul.30 – Aug.2

Early access

Ocean Grove Health Retreat – Surviving HIV Issues Together 2023

This retreat is set in a peaceful space where adults may escape the demands of every day life and building skills to make living healthier.

By Buddies of NJ, Inc.


When and where

Date and time


Bath Avenue House 37 Bath Avenue Ocean Grove Neptune Township, NJ 07756

Refund Policy

Refunds up to 30 days before event
Eventbrite’s fee is nonrefundable.

About this event

  • 2 days 20 hours
  • Mobile eTicket

SALE BEGINS MLK Weekend [Fri Jan 13th]

Ocean Grove Health Retreat



Surviving HIV Issues Together

call or more info. 201-290-1539


This 3-Day Retreat is offered at a fraction of the cost of similar retreats throughout the country. We officially include people living with HIV, people who are affected by HIV, and our allies.  This affordable retreat is due to the generosity of the Bath Avenue House donating nearly half of the lodging cost in memory of our friend, and Buddies’ former Director, Stephen Scheuermann.  We are also lucky to have the support of volunteers, speakers, restaurants, and groups who provide meals with presentations.

HIV has been one of the biggest fears that many of us have faced.  HIV, a virus that has changed lives forever in ways never expected.  We, as a community, have fought to inform policy that is beating this virus and that is seeking to establish a permanent voice of equality in how we are treated.  U=U is now official; UNDETECTABLE = UNTRANSMITTABLE !   We are now controlling partners in the plans to End the Epidemics.  HIV, although still with us, is becoming less relevant to the rest of the world. Many of have come through and have realized that we are probably not going to die from AIDS. We may even see a vaccine or a cure in our lifetimes. Yet, some survivors have been left in situations that are not easy to manage on our own. Our goal here is to gather as many people together to build an honest community of support. We seek to share laughter, fun, stories, tears, wisdom, joy… as we continue the theme of: Surviving HIV Issues Together.

Of course, our major goal is lowering the viral load to undetectable and stopping the spread of HIV.  HIV is only one of the health challenges we face. HIV is now very treatable, more easily preventable, and no longer a death sentence, yet we still have unique challenges that other illnesses do not. HIV has given us an opportunity to renew who we are and how we take care of ourselves… even when we slip backward.  We are not much different than other people who decide to turn their struggles into championships.  HIV, however, is a unique challenge and it helps us to find support from others who experience similar twists in:  health, lifestyles, family, relationships, employment, legalities, spirituality, and more…

THIS YEAR’S THEME IS: Surviving HIV Issues Together

Activities and Presentations Will Touch On: Health & Wellness Beyond HIV; Giving Ourselves Space to Heal; Physical Activity & Cardio Vascular Health;  Mental Wellness;  Healthier Cooking; Listening & Understanding; Healthy Communication; Self-Advocacy; Disclosure vs. Non-Disclosure; Sexual Intimacy; Healthy Relationships; Prevention & PrEP; Spirituality and More…

Participants will be able to see the Jersey shore (≈300 steps away) and breathe it in, just as the warm weather begins to envelop its coast. All will have a chance to relax and enjoy themselves and others who are different, yet, share similar life circumstances. It is a time to gain awareness of where we are in life and to where life may be calling us. It is a time to discover and acknowledge our strengths, weaknesses, talents, frailties, desires, needs, and more… Together we create a safe, stigma-free environment where we have a chance to articulate who and what may support us in our journeys towards a healthier life. This time is less intense and more relaxing and fun!

YOU MAY ATTEND: Any adult may apply to attend regardless of age, sex. race, nationality, socio-economic status, looks, religious beliefs, or political stature.  This retreat originally began as a “Gay Men’s Retreat HIV+” and is now inclusive of all.  Yet, we are committed to keeping a stigma free environment that allows us to be open and free to address our issues without judgement or ignorance. Safe space is a priority! It is our goal is to keep this a time free of judgement or fear. We will ask that selected applicants will only be those who can present a proof of status and/or demonstrate how HIV strongly affects their lives. Anyone who pays prior to filing application is entitled to full refund if not selected. If you are coming for any other reasons than: self-enhancement, relaxation, fun, and/or brief time away from responsibilities… you may choose not to apply or to call and find out if you may experience what you hope to out of this retreat. Space is limited; apply soon! The cost for 3-Nights & 3 Days in advance is only $295. per person (MEALS INCLUDED). This must be paid in advance to NJB by check or online at Eventbrite by July 15th 2023.

Early Bird Planning in Advance helps with both time and cost. Your reward for helping us do so is a $25. discount . The cost shall be $250.00 until Monday June 5th unless payment plan is arranged by emailing in advance.

To Bring or Not To Bring …

Bring weather appropriate, comfortable clothing.  Bringa nice-a pair a clothes for going one night on the town… but DO NOT OVER PACK unless you are THE QUEEN!  Clean bedding, pillows, and towels are provided.  Generic soap and shampoo are also provided; please bring your own tooth brush, hair brush, and/or any specialty care items for hygiene with you.  Bring medications but please list any that you are bringing; narcotic prescriptions must be approved prior to acceptance of application.  Alcohol and recreational drugs also may not be brought on premise.  Smoking may only happen off premise… it will be assumed that anyone found smoking in the house is on fire and appropriate measure will be taken to put you out.  There will be plenty of free time and open space for persons who need to smoke.  Watches and cell phones may not be audible or visible during presentations and/or discussions; there will be safe areas available to place them during those times.  Please leave negative attitudes at home.  Bring on the fun and stay positive!


Talents and Skills

If you have any talents or skills that you believe can benefit persons attending this retreat, please let us know; write: subject: retreat talents and skills

The Schedule


on the Friday before the retreat

This year we cannot piggy-back on the Annual Jersey Pride Celebration

Those Who Arrive Early may Check In & Leave Baggage in Secure Area

FULL SCHEDULE WILL BE POSTED... This retreat is for self-relaxation and growth.   Please, however, try to attend as many that you feel you are able to.   Additionally, any sponsored meals will only be for participants.  If you choose not to participate for a sponsored meal, you must then provide for your own meal at that time.  The schedule will provide for plenty of free time and personal space. All we ask is that you do not schedule or partake in alternative activities during times that things are scheduled.  Gathering and Pizza & Salad will be at SUNDAY @ 6:00PM

The Retreat Orientation will begin Sunday evening promptly at 7:00PM, all are expected to join. 

All attendees will enjoy pizza and salad prior to welcoming and “house-keeping”.  We will enjoy a couple activities followed by an inspiring talk.  Then just before retiring to a comfortable room we will have warm beverages and cookies out on the porch.

Meals by: , , , &  consumer educational programs.


Each participant may:

  1. Drive down in one’s own vehicle; there is plenty of safe street parking.
  2. Carpool with friend(s). (Please offer an appropriate gratuity for gas and tolls when someone is kind enough to drive.)
  3. Use NJ Transit

*minimum down payment is $50.  for anyone requesting payment options; please email or to inquire.




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HIV Is Not A Crime Awareness Day | FEB. 28 / MARCH 1st

Buddies of NJ, Inc. CELEBRATES NJ’s DECRIMINALIZATION of HIV & supports other states moving forward to do the same.

the S.E.L.F. Support Group at 6:30pm on March 1st will be Meeting at the Harrison House

and topics will include this awareness day, U=U, and news from the *CROI .  

For more information write

HIV Is Not A Crime Awareness Day

February 28

February 28 is HIV is Not a Crime Awareness Day, which was first observed in 2022 by the Sero ProjectExit Disclaimer in collaboration with the Elizabeth Taylor AIDS FoundationExit Disclaimer. This awareness day is an opportunity to amplify the voices of those who have been criminalized based on their HIV status.

Living with HIV is not a crime, but in more than 30 U.S. states, people are being imprisoned due to their HIV status. HIV criminalization laws consist of using a person’s positive HIV status in a criminal prosecution, increasing charges or punishments because the person has HIV.

In partnership with ChangeLab Solutions and the Elizabeth Taylor AIDS Foundation, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is bringing together a dynamic team of experts at the forefront of HIV law, policy, and research to discuss the importance of HIV decriminalization, CDC’s new HIV Criminalization Legal and Policy Assessment tool, and the path towards a more equitable future. Don’t miss this important discussion on Tuesday, February 28, 2023 at 10:00 AM PT/1:00 PM ET. You can register here Exit Disclaimer.

Be prepared with the Sero Project’s HIV is Not a Crime Awareness Day toolkit that’s full information, suggested best practices, social media templates, and more. Visit Disclaimer or en Español: Disclaimer.

Event Planning Guide 

Watch Harold Phillips, Director of the White House Office of National AIDS Policy, in his video conversation with, filmed in April 2022, as he discusses the National HIV/AIDS Strategy’s call to modernize or repeal outdated HIV-specific criminal exposure laws:

Watch this 2019 video from the National Alliance of State and Territorial AIDS Directors (NASTAD)Exit Disclaimer ‘Stigma Series’ regarding the modernization of HIV laws and policies in North Carolina: